Tuesday, September 15, 2009

Fed Up With Disrespectful Parents, Part 1

Yeah,  you read that right.  Disrespectful parents.  I daily witness interactions between parents and children, and I find that parents who respect their children are a rare breed.  No wonder we have so many anxious, depressed, and angry adolescents.  Not to mention disrespectful.  If a child is disrespectful, he often takes the blame for it.  But what makes a child so disrespectful?  Is it the child's natural inclination, or does it come from years of being disrepected by adults? 

I have witnessed so much disdain for children that it breaks my heart.  People treat children in ways they would never dream of treating an adult.  Over the next few days, I'll be discussing some examples.

Parents Lie to Children

I work in a health clinic where children are weighed and receive finger pokes to check hemoglobin status.  Almost 100% of parents lie to their kids. The child, upon realizing that he is about to get poked, starts to cry and get upset.  The parents almost ALWAYS say, "Oh, it's not going to hurt."  Why?!  Of course it's going to hurt!  The child knows it; he's gotten poked before.  Sure, he'll be upset even if you tell him the truth about the pain, but it's better to tell the truth than to lie. 

If you lie to your child about whether a shot will hurt, he will begin to not trust you.  Then he will be scared about everything.  Because you haven't been truthful with him, he won't ever know what is safe and what is not safe.  I firmly believe that is why so many children are afraid to get weighed.  All they have to do is stand on a scale, but some kids are absolutely petrified.  They scream and cry and refuse to stand.  I don't believe this would happen if parents told kids the truth about what is going to happen at the doctor's office.

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